i have been thinking a lot about our upcoming birth. since this will be my first experience without having any family around, i am really feeling the need to wrap my thoughts around the many scenarios of how this may play out. it is not the birthing process that is my concern (not yet anyway), it is the whereabouts of my children while i am birthing. i think when every mother has her second child, you surrender in that first contraction knowing that for the next several hours you are actually the only person who can't look after your older child. in the beginning i was thinking anyone in our montessori community would take my boys if i was to labor durning the day, without a doubt i could ring anyone and know my children would be cared for. we also have amazing neighbours who would scoop them up in a heart beat, feed them, and make them a bed for the night.
as i approach my third trimester my thoughts on the subject seem to be changing. it is a sacred thing to give birth and those indivuals you invite into that circle should be carefully selected. most of my dear friends work and have other children of their own to look after, and squeeze into their cars. their lives are full and busy. i guess what i am getting at is i don't want the situation to occur where my children are gathered up sort of randomly, or split up due to car space.
which leads me into my thoughts on having the children present at the birth. i want them to be prepared, as well as myself, if that is where this journey takes us. i know people have strong views on this subject, and actually i never thought it would be something i would ever choose until recently. i am still doing my research on the subject but would love to hear of others experiences with it. advise? criticism? all views are welcome on the subject so please do share your opinion.
i am comfortable birthing with just the midwives, i've been placed on the "team midwife program" which is a group of midwives that birth in the most wholelistic way...for lack of a better description. i have faith that they would be sensitive and aware of my children as well. if michael needed to wait with the children in the "family room" in the midwives section of the hospital, which would most likely be just down the hall from me, at least he would be close to join in when the baby does make it's entry into the world. i realize michael would be going back and forth from both rooms, but if the children got curious then they would have the opportunity to do the same. to participate as much or as little as they choose.